Social anxiety and work 

The feeling when you’re in the middle of an oral exam and you have to talk about a topic that you’ve never heard of …

What do you do in these situations ?

You improvise , bluff , with a very convincing face that you know what you’re doing. Some people even smile during these awkward situations.

Again , you improvise , you have no script in your head , you just let your imagination flow while you speak .

It’s the same scenario when you talk to a stranger . You have nothing to lose . You won’t meet them afterwards anyways , so you can have fun talking to them.

Indeed , I feel less stressed when I talk to strangers than when I have to have a conversation with my classmates for example. (Any introverts out there?)

We all have moments , when we want to somehow impress others , or at least appear to be less stupid…  I’m not talking about job interviews , exams , but when you have a hard time approaching your crush . Or vice versa, you don’t want to talk to them , because you think that  you’re not as flawless as they had imagined you …

I know , one option is to not give a sh’t. Be apathetic . This approach will only make you more isolated.

Other option is to just go with it .  Dance with your friends , even if you “can’t” dance.

Don’t try to impress him or her , just make sure everyone’s having fun (don’t make a detailed plan , though..) .  Otherwise , you’ll end up either spectating and complaining, or you’ll end up missing the big picture because of a small thing.

Same applies to work and studies. Once you begin to grade it , measure it to see how good you are (so you can brag to other people) , you lose fun. I’m not joking , this is a psychological phenomenon.

Do it , because you love doing it. You don’t need more reasons.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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