Showing off your skills

HAHA! The smart kid finally fails ! – that’s what others think when they see you stumbling.

Obviously not , everyone is so concerned about themselves…

Some of us have a fear that people will judge us by our performance . Does it really matter ?

These days , I’m worrying about getting good grades , so that others won’t perceive me as someone “stupid”. You’re familiar with the imposter syndrome , right ? You have to remain on the top (meaning you cannot make mistakes), otherwise you’re just a fraud.

A year ago , I was quite edgy. 😀 I took everything to the limit .. I was burnt out quite a lot of times.. I definitely don’t recommend that lifestyle .

However , I had a mindset of never giving up , pushing the borderline of my so called potential..( I matured a little bit since.)

Basically , when I hit rock bottom (like a bad grade) , I knew that it  wasn’t the end of the world . I knew that it didn’t define me as a person,  because I got so much more to learn .

So be humble , folks .  😀





How to cope with the feelings after failure

If you’re a perfectionist like me , you like setting high standards , but hate the fact that you fail to achieve it… Mostly because , we’ve invested so much time and effort in it , and seeing it falling apart makes the whole process feel “meaningless”. Why bother?

Here are some tips to cope with the feelings after failure .

Tip #1

I’ve got a friend  , who has an awesome minimalist mindset.

He usually aims for the skill level he thinks he is capable of , anything above that, he considers as “bonus”. So for example : he knows that he can achieve 30 out of 50 points on a test , then he aims for 30 points. If he gets more than 30,in that case he is happy about it.

It’s almost the same mindset that goes like this : “Aim for the moon , even if you miss , you’ll land on stars.” Just the other way around.

The basic message in both approach is that you should appreciate your progress. You must be better off than when you’ve started.

Tip #2 

Talk about your failure . You’ll notice two things for sure. One , everybody makes mistakes in their lives , even the ones who you consider as “perfect”. Two , your friends will still be your friends. Hopefully , they don’t love you because of your grades/achievements.  🙂 ( In case you wonder , YES , you do have people who cares about YOU !)

Tip #3

Chill, don’t work for a while. Put some music on , watch a good movie , go out .

You know , these are the things that you do outside of your “work”.