The feeling when you’re in the middle of an oral exam and you have to talk about a topic that you’ve never heard of …
What do you do in these situations ?
You improvise , bluff , with a very convincing face that you know what you’re doing. Some people even smile during these awkward situations.
Again , you improvise , you have no script in your head , you just let your imagination flow while you speak .
It’s the same scenario when you talk to a stranger . You have nothing to lose . You won’t meet them afterwards anyways , so you can have fun talking to them.
Indeed , I feel less stressed when I talk to strangers than when I have to have a conversation with my classmates for example. (Any introverts out there?)
We all have moments , when we want to somehow impress others , or at least appear to be less stupid… I’m not talking about job interviews , exams , but when you have a hard time approaching your crush . Or vice versa, you don’t want to talk to them , because you think that you’re not as flawless as they had imagined you …
I know , one option is to not give a sh’t. Be apathetic . This approach will only make you more isolated.
Other option is to just go with it . Dance with your friends , even if you “can’t” dance.
Don’t try to impress him or her , just make sure everyone’s having fun (don’t make a detailed plan , though..) . Otherwise , you’ll end up either spectating and complaining, or you’ll end up missing the big picture because of a small thing.
Same applies to work and studies. Once you begin to grade it , measure it to see how good you are (so you can brag to other people) , you lose fun. I’m not joking , this is a psychological phenomenon.
Do it , because you love doing it. You don’t need more reasons.